Cosmopolitan Has A “Side-chick” Seeking Her Happily Ever After. Cosmopolitan has an anonymous “side-chick” justifying her self claimed; lack of empathy. Typically, this wouldn’t be my style of writing. Today is different, and I would love for you all to take a look.
: In the first portion of the article, this “anonymous” woman that I will now call; “Jenny”, proudly claims that she is indeed, a “side-chick”. Jenny claims that she is cursed, and that she has no idea why she is drawn to “The taken”. She is also very quick to state the point that she is not a…*ehem*, slut.
Jenny explains to you that she is not more special, funnier, nor prettier than the mans main-chick. She openly explains her confessions to a close friend, and her therapist. Both of their explanations to her, she has described; “Cliche”.
In my opinion, the explanations; “Commitment issues” and “Deep-rooted insecurities” sound pretty valid to me, mostly after the previous paragraphs describing that she is no better than the mans girlfriend. Jenny also confesses the “ego boost” that she gets when a guy likes her enough to cheat on his girlfriend.
Jenny is convinced that love overcomes all obstacles, using the girlfriend as an example. Once she has the power to “overcome this obstacle”, she will end up with the man because he is “destined to be with her”.
At this point in reading the article, I began to think; “She’s so insecure, it’s kind of sad.” and actually empathized for her for a moment. I wanted to sit down and talk to her, help her uncover what made her the way she is today. I empathized for two seconds before I proceeded to read her next paragraph that somewhat sounded like she was bragging.
Jenny admits that she is not an “uncaring” person, she just lacks the empathy that she should feel for the woman who’s partner she is sleeping with, and fantasizing of a relationship with. Jenny begins to feel sorry for herself;
“Sometimes, I think I’m cursed-I cheated on my first serious boyfriend, and occasionally I entertain the idea that karma is having a good old laugh at my expense, presenting unavailable men to me forever more.” In my opinion, Jenny, you are creating your own karma by only trying to feed off of the things that you can not have, and somehow thinking that continuing your ways will eventually make you happy with someone. A someone who will treat you fairly and never cheat on you, because you are not the one who deserves it, right? You don’t deserve it because, these men are supposed to be with you because they aren’t, right?
Jenny then begins to explain that eventually, things “fizzle out” once she realizes that she will always be second best, in her words.
“Then it’s on to the next shiny new already-someone’s-boyfriend, and so the vicious cycle continues.”
Okay, Jenny, Okay. What vicious cycle, again? The vicious cycle of your frustration because your “man” is busy with his girlfriend, meeting the parents and going on anniversary dates? The vicious cycle of you being oh-so clueless, to the point that you have no idea why you’re “different” in this sense? The vicious cycle of you listening to; “Blah, blah, more therapy talk”?
Or is it the viscous cycle of you taking part in destroying another woman’s love-life and emotions in general, you are “the other woman”, you are not the woman who was there first. It’s the viscous cycle of your insecurity, lack of empathy, and self-denial.
Jenny also has the audacity to close up her article; “-and so the vicious cycle continues. Until I find my happily ever after, of course.”
Poor Jenny, poor, poor Jenny, silly enough to think that a “happily ever after” will come from someone who is already in the middle of their own “happily every after”. Silly Jenny, thinking that she could never be replaced by an “other woman”, after all of the times she has been “the other woman”.
The saddest part of this article is that it has support, “relatable” comments, and is published by one of the most popular women’s magazines
What the fu- , Jenny.